In today’s books, movies, toys, stores, culture of early childhood centers, and school's homophobia and heterosexism are much more open and acceptable than maybe 30 years or so ago. I find that to be empowering for children in helping them to not struggle with thoughts or feelings that they are experiencing. When I was growing up the stereotypes and judgments of others was based off of their gender or sexual orientation and if they did not fit a traditional role then they were treated as if there was something wrong with them or the use of religion was thrown at them. There are still stereotypes amongst us when it comes to gender and sexism however, there is material, groups, movies, communities and many other venues of support for children and families who do not fit what society deems to be a traditional lifestyle. As it relates to homophobia and heterosexism in an early childhood setting, I have found that including parents in the classroom environment helps children and parents express their thoughts and/or concerns both in a learning environment and can likely make it easier to approach sensitive topics at home. I think allowing children to express themselves and ask questions is one way to help them gain a better understanding of the world around them. I do additionally think that because there are so many negative sources about gender and sexism that we must be vigilante on what we allow them to watch or read.
A few years ago, as a cheer coach I had a little boy who wanted to try out for the team. I had absolutely no issues at all with him trying out nor did his mom. During the tryout period the principal visited us a few evenings to show support. I can remember it like it just happened. He called me over and shared how he thought that although the boy mom may not have an issue with him trying out there were other parents that had brought it to his attention that they did not agree with it. I was shocked, disgusted, hurt, upset, and became angry the more I thought about it. First of all, having a cheer team was new to the school environment and I wanted it to be successful. Second, I did not want to create any negativity towards the pending new team or any of the parents. I took the time to share with the mom what “WE” yes, we would be up against and she said that she loves and supports her son, and this is what he wants to do. We compromised and made him the mascot, but it took some time for the bear outfit to come in. While the games had already started, I allowed the little boy to dress out in shorts and a school logo shirt to cheer alongside the team. Long story short, the principal was not happy with the outcome, but the team came together as one. I did not get any direct push back from any parents however, it never truly set right with me that I had make that compromise in an elementary environment nor did I have the support of the principal who I felt should have stood up for that child.
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Hi Violanda,
First off, I agree with your statement "I have found that including parents in the classroom environment helps children and parents express their thoughts and/or concerns both in a learning environment and can likely make it easier to approach sensitive topics at home." I mentioned in my blog that during my first year teaching experience at my current job, I had a child who had two moms and I had no experience with homosexual couples, either in my professional or personal life so I was not prepared for my initial reaction. However after apologizing profusely, and eventually making the point to get to know them both better, and ask if it was ok to ask my questions, we grew very close. Once I built that relationship I asked if they wanted to speak to the kids who were naturally curious about my student's parenting situation when she nonchalantly always responded, "I have 2 moms". They were both able to answer the kid's questions better than I could, but I also listened to how they responded and took that into consideration for future reference in other years so I could teach the topic better.
Secondly, I am so sad that you had to "compromise" on that child's behalf for the cheer team, especially since there are many men who compete in national championships in cheerleading! I am glad that you personally were offended for him and I wish that it was easier to solve problems like that or have the ability to just be like, "well, too bad" without getting in trouble, but alas, our society doesn't allow that. Maybe one day. But kudos to you for trying, and at least, still being able to allow him to participate even if it wasn't what he or his mom originally wanted. --Brittany
I believe that educators should educate are youth about sexuality and how it ok to be yourself. Most boys that are gay are bullied in schools and on social media. It painful to witness society mistreat human beings that are different from them.
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