In today’s books, movies, toys, stores, culture of early childhood centers, and school's homophobia and heterosexism are much more open and acceptable than maybe 30 years or so ago. I find that to be empowering for children in helping them to not struggle with thoughts or feelings that they are experiencing. When I was growing up the stereotypes and judgments of others was based off of their gender or sexual orientation and if they did not fit a traditional role then they were treated as if there was something wrong with them or the use of religion was thrown at them. There are still stereotypes amongst us when it comes to gender and sexism however, there is material, groups, movies, communities and many other venues of support for children and families who do not fit what society deems to be a traditional lifestyle. As it relates to homophobia and heterosexism in an early childhood setting, I have found that including parents in the classroom environment helps children and parents express their thoughts and/or concerns both in a learning environment and can likely make it easier to approach sensitive topics at home. I think allowing children to express themselves and ask questions is one way to help them gain a better understanding of the world around them. I do additionally think that because there are so many negative sources about gender and sexism that we must be vigilante on what we allow them to watch or read.
A few years ago, as a cheer coach I had a little boy who wanted to try out for the team. I had absolutely no issues at all with him trying out nor did his mom. During the tryout period the principal visited us a few evenings to show support. I can remember it like it just happened. He called me over and shared how he thought that although the boy mom may not have an issue with him trying out there were other parents that had brought it to his attention that they did not agree with it. I was shocked, disgusted, hurt, upset, and became angry the more I thought about it. First of all, having a cheer team was new to the school environment and I wanted it to be successful. Second, I did not want to create any negativity towards the pending new team or any of the parents. I took the time to share with the mom what “WE” yes, we would be up against and she said that she loves and supports her son, and this is what he wants to do. We compromised and made him the mascot, but it took some time for the bear outfit to come in. While the games had already started, I allowed the little boy to dress out in shorts and a school logo shirt to cheer alongside the team. Long story short, the principal was not happy with the outcome, but the team came together as one. I did not get any direct push back from any parents however, it never truly set right with me that I had make that compromise in an elementary environment nor did I have the support of the principal who I felt should have stood up for that child.
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