The relationship I have with my father is one of the most important relationships I currently have. Our relationship has always been important to me. My dad is whom keeps me grounded. When I have struggled with anything I know that I can go to him and we can talk through things. After our talks I will see things from a different perspective. My father is not biased in his talks with me, if I am wrong he will tell me and explain to me why he feels as such. It is important to have someone that is in your corner to encourage and push you when needed and my father is most definitely my first go to person for that. I was only supposed to take a semester off after I graduated in Fall of 2017 but that semester turn into a full year. My dad sat me down and reminded me what I told him my goals were moving forward and inquired what the hold up was. I had no good explanation to give him and we sat and planned my next chapter. I hit a few road blocks in my pursue to getting back on course with school. My dad had a resolution or suggestion for everything and would NOT allow me to be stagnant. We live so far away from each other with him in Maryland and myself in Texas, our schedules are crazy but if I ever call or text him he never hesitates to respond. I have lost and endured a lot in the last 4 years, my father has been my constant through ALL everything. I genuinely believe that if it were not for him checking in or booking flights to spend time with me I wouldn't be in the place I am now. I am generally an extremely outgoing, over energized , optimistic, jolly person and at one point I struggle to get back to myself after the loss of my mom. I am a religious person, I am grateful beyond words for the love and support of my dad not just during my dark times but he has been stellar my entire life. I am anxious for the next couple of weeks to pass so that I can spend time with him for the Thanksgiving holidays.
I believe that my relationship with my father has instilled in me the importance of consistency. Teachers, students and their families will need my consistent support and dedication to what is best for them. That support can range from guiding them to proper resources to being an ear to voice a need or concern. I feel confident that I will provide and assist anyone that I am given the opportunity to teach and help. Family emotional support is beneficial for academic outcomes as it promotes psychological well-being and facilitates greater student engagement (Roska, 2018).
In addition to the relationship I have with my dad, the bond that I have with my daughters is also one of great importance. I valued the gift of being a mom and being blessed to have four wonderful daughters has given me happiness and a purpose beyond measure. My daughters are loving and encouraging about all things involving me. They are always telling me that I do not do enough for myself. If they have not heard from me, they will reach out or come home to visit to take me to dinner or just to be near me. My relationship with them is important to me because I need them to know that it is never to late to go for what they want. Often times goals need adjusting as things do not always go as planned, when that happens seek out the positives and build on those positives to get you back on course is what I have told them. I am a firm believer in say what you mean and mean what you say. I would not advise my daughters anything that I would not be willing to apply for myself. Sometimes they have to remind me of that and I am perfectly okay with that. The relationships that I have with each of my daughters has given me different views and personalities that I am sure to encounter as they are all so very different. In having my four daughters, I have volunteered and spent an enormous amount of time over the years with educators, children and their families allowing me to experience what is needed to build a healthy relationship with students and their families. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, the population of students aged 25 and older is projected to increase to approximately 43 percent of all college and graduate students by the year 2020 (Colorado Tech, 2017). Getting back on course with my education and having my father along with my daughters as part of my support system has made this a great chapter in my life.
References
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https://www.coloradotech.edu/blog/2017/june/returning-to-school-as-an-adult.
3 comments:
Violanda, I really enjoyed reading your post about important relationships in your life. Your relationship with your father sounds very similar to the relationship I have with my dad. My dad has always been so supportive throughout my entire life and still continues to be during my journey of getting my master's degree and day to day life. We are so lucky to have great fathers who encourage us to be better every day.
Violanda, I enjoyed reading your blog. I am one who also values positive relationships with my family. I enjoyed reading about the bond you have with your family. The relationship you have with your family sounds like the same type of relationship I have with family. It is funny when people see how close, loving and supporting my family is they are sometimes shocked. I get many people telling me how positive and supportive my family relationship is. It feels so good to have positive relationships within your family. A good positive relationship encourages you and motivates you to do all you can do. Good luck in all you do and thank you for sharing your story.
Violanda, I admire the relationship you have with your father. I think it is very important to have someone who keeps you grounded. With all the joys and distractions in life it is valuable to have someone who can get you back on track. My dad has helped me through a
lot also. I took some time off from school and decided to work but I never felt judged or pressured by my dad. He also reminded me of my goals which helped me get back on track.
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